Having your boyfriend break up with you is probably the toughest ordeal a girl could ever go through in her dating years. The hurt goes through the core and along with it, a sense of betrayal, low self-esteem, and a number of physical manifestation of distress like weight loss/gain, sickness and or sluggishness.
It may seem like it's the end of the world for you. And it probably is, if you can't get over yourself and quit moping around and convincing yourself that there is life beyond a boyfriend break up. Cry your heart out, but don't wallow too long in self pity. Chances are, it's all your ex's loss, and not yours.
Here are a couple of things you can do to make that ordeal of a boyfriend break up more bearable.
- Write you're ex a letter telling him how you feel about the break up, Say all the things you wanted to say before but never been able to. Then tell him exactly what you think of him. Call him names. List out all his faults. Get it all out on paper and don't leave anything out. When you're done, light a match and burn your letter. Now it is all over.
- Next, put all the things that he has given you inside a box and trade them with your gifts to him. Don't leave anything to remind you of him, especially personal effects such as toothbrushes and t-shirts. These little things are the ones that bring back the awful memories that you will be struggling to forget.
- Third, put the maximum space allowable between you and your ex boyfriend. Make and agreement with him that you will have to stay off of each other's way for the time being. Distance is necessary after a break up to give yourself time and space to heal.
- Lastly, never close your doors so readily on a new relationship, not even on your ex. There is a chance you can get back together. Love is sweeter the second time around and by then, you will both be better persons from the experience.
Nothing is ever easy when it comes to dealing with a broken heart, and the first step to healing and moving on is always the hardest. But if you look around, you will find that there are a lot of people who are ready to help you take that step. Turn to them for comfort and let them surround you with love and laughter. Love heals all wounds, so they say, and laughter is a soothing balm for the aching heart.